buckysbears:

cutiequeercris:

dysperdis:

dysperdis:

so this has been bouncing around my head for a while and I’m still not sure if this is the best way to phrase it, but…

making opportunities for everyone to explore their gender and orientation means nothing if it’s not safe for people to be wrong about their gender and orientation. otherwise, “exploring your identity” becomes limited to “confirming what you were already pretty sure of,” which isn’t going to do anything for anyone who isn’t already at that stage.

like, time and again i’ve seen people questioning whether they’re allowed to use certain pronouns or labels if they’re still questioning those identities or if they need to wait until they’re more sure of the label. or people being worried that changes in how they identify and the language they use to describe themselves will validate stereotypes.

and this is the result of a culture where choosing an identity label that ends up being wrong is far worse than never exploring your identity in the first place. it’s the same reason people freak out about trans kids, because what if they decide they aren’t trans after all in the future? it’s also why i’ve run into multiple callouts on this site that include things like “10 years ago they called themself a ‘lesbian with an exception’ for a couple of months,” because trying to reconcile old identities with new experiences is seen as a threat.

and in the end, the people this attitude ends up punishing are folks who are targeted by cissexism and/or heterosexism, but are lacking some of the language or the experiences or even the community that would allow them to express how those systems impact them.

Take all the time you need to figure it out. Try different clothes, pronouns, names. Our society doesnt make this easy. Theres nothing wrong with being wrong while you figure it out

and just because you settle on something different later doesnt mean you were ‘wrong’ before 

top 5 Pippin headcanons

wow okay

  • he’s agender & pan (i hc he’s oblivious to gender)
  • he has ADHD and is autistic
  • in a merhobbit au his beautiful singing voice would have siren-like power
  • so pippin is part the richest family in the shire so i figure he’d be one of those rich kids who doesn’t get how much money is a lot of money (and in a modern au he’d own like 5 iphones for the colours, ya know)
  • the reason he eats more than even other hobbits is cuz he grew up being overfed and thats because he has a metabolism problem that makes it so he’s way thinner than hobbits are meant to be. so all his life his relatives and other well wishers are like “omg ur skin and bones, have more pie”. its just that he burns off energy quicker than he can take it in

this was actually hard because other traits i like about pippin are true things, like that he’s brave, has the most character growth of the 9 and he’s not an idiot and he’s really kind and also silly and oh my fucking gosh I LOVE PIPPIN SO MUCH

I see from your tags you watch Person of Interest!! I’m a first time watcher that is in complete and utter SHOCK and in need of someone to scream about this with. I CANNOT believe the end of 3×09 WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK!!!! THIS HAS TO BE SOME SORT OF JOKE/NIGHTMARE/ELABORATE PLAN TO KEEP CARTER SAFE SHE CANNOT BE ACTUALLY DEAD

well i’ve only seen the first season

but i am aware of what ur talking about because when this happened the fandom got SUPER upset so uhhhh basically… Big Mood

slightmayhem:

attentiondeficitstarscream:

if you’re offline or away and i message you something (like a link to a meme or a picture or w/e) honestly just assume that i’m just leaving it there for when you get back and not expecting you to answer straight away. i don’t need you to respond with “hey, sorry, i wasn’t at the computer!” or anything. i was leaving u a gift for later.

This also applies if you’re online and just don’t want to or have the energy to deal with humans in the moment. Just because we have the ability to reply in real time does not mean we have the obligation.